The circumstances in which the life of each child has developed considerably determine their way of being and their character, but there is a whole set of features that are common in preadolescence.
In this article today we will try to describe them.
- 1 Traits that define preteens
- 2 Another vision of the world and adults
- 3 Other important changes
Traits that define preteens
1-The character of a 10 or 11 year old boy has already reached a considerable degree of balance, as if it were the maturity of his childhood stage. Now he will present more definite features of affirmation of his personality, curiosity and sociability.
2-He is restless, researcher, moved. He can't be still. Speak with ease and ingenuity that is usually funny to adults. It is continually asking why of each thing. Search adults, study them with penetrating eyes, make x-rays of each gesture, of each reaction, of each way of speaking.
3-He likes to explore, investigate, discover, get where they don't call him. It has a loud spontaneity without too much criterion that makes it easily alternate the occurrence and sympathy with the inopportune or rude.
4-His emotional life presents strong contrasts. In a short time you can go from a spectacular anger to an explosion of laughter. It is fickle in your mood. It can be grumpy and unbearable in the morning and cheerful and playful in the afternoon. Other times it will alternate good days with dark days. The bad mood can appear at any time, but usually does not last long: he is not resentful.
5-Need to be heard. It is easy to see him raising his voice or anxiously looking for prominence. He has, by nature, the desire to attract attention. It is not convenient to pay too much attention to it if we stop being for others.
6-Is naughty and tireless. In the face of his pranks, it is neither convenient nor too rigid nor to let them pass by without further You have to know how to find a midpoint.
7-He is curious, outgoing and talkative, he even seems a little anxious. He still lacks a sense of measure and nuances. Sometimes he does not understand the scope of his actions well; When someone jokes with him, it's easy for the boy to end up disrespecting him.
8-It often gets better outside than at home. This shows that if you want, you know how to get along.
9-It is easy for him to behave in rebellion, or that he says that he is already big and that he can do what he wants. But given the difficulties, he would like to have an adult by his side.
10- It is not normal to look for isolation. Rather, he prefers the company or having people around, although he sometimes expresses wishes for independence. It interrupts and annoys, but it is also very cheerful and cheerful. He usually makes the clown and adults usually laugh with him.
11- Prefer to contradict to respond. He does not do it for malice, but is part of the consolidation of his character. Other times he likes to establish cordial exchanges of opinions and deepen knowledge of everything.
Another vision of the world and adults
At this age already see adults with other eyes, less admiration and more critical sense. Censor your behavior and your words. There is even an excess of suspicion to look for defects, a certain spirit of being contrary, a certain inclination to insult, to shout, or to respond rudely. Despite this behavior, this does not mean that his affection for us has diminished.
He usually tries to tell the truth, but if he thinks it can cause problems, can take the habit of lying. For this not to happen, we must not be too rigid, and we have to thank you for your sincerity.
The girls will already start to be interested in the boys. On the contrary, boys are little interested in girls, and can even say that they are cheesy or boring. It's easy to see them play with separate groups of boys and girls.
When they are in a group they tend to be more naughty, and they do things that they might not do alone. They like to annoy the little groups of the opposite sex.
At twelve, however, things may have changed and suddenly the boys begin to take an interest in the girls.
Other important changes
1-With the passage of time, begin to claim the right to make their own decisions, and enjoy doing it. This will make you more responsible.
2-He will want more freedom from his parents. Try to look great. He will claim that he is no longer a child and will want to be treated as such. All this is part of the affirmation process of his personality. It is not a uniform process, but it is being pushed. Parents and educators should know how to be patient, wind up when necessary, and cut it when necessary.
3-He is usually very enthusiastic. He is passionate about a meal he wants, for a friend he has liked, for a movie or for a whim. He immerses himself in what interests him. He likes debate and discussion, exercising his intelligence and demonstrating memory or ingenuity. It is a good time to encourage the love of reading.
4-It is also age of surprising initiatives, which you will want to do immediately, since you usually have a good dose of confidence and self-confidence.
5-Although don't understand abstract ideas well. It is better to speak with a specific language, and use images and examples.
6-Already begin to understand the emotions of others, and is sensitive to the feelings of others. He is curious to know what the other children are like. It is often asked if he is strange or different.
7-Expect adults security and consistency, wise and mature decisions.
8-Accept fair authority and discipline.
9-In general It's not as scary as before, but may be afraid of being alone in the dark, or of being in the forest without the company of an adult. Or it can be affected by the vision of a horror movie, which will give rise to new fears.
10-Contrast with this that have no fear of speed or physical risk, usually due to lack of experience. If you suffer falls or accidents that will make you more cautious.
11-He worries about his way of dressing, and is determined to go "fashionable". If you have seen someone wearing certain jeans, or a shirt or a jacket, you don't want anything else. He ends up understanding very much about clothing brands and sports shoes.
12-Little by little he loses the resistance to work he showed when he was younger. He recognizes his duties and normally does not object to fulfilling his obligations. Perhaps he will not do it on his own initiative, and we will need to remember him, but he shows good will. What happens is that you want to finish everything in a minute. In general, it is more responsible if we are not on it.
13-It can cost you to do your homework. He knows that in the end he will have to do things, but he often needs the initial push to make up his mind, or a little sermon of ours that makes him feel guilty.
14-He takes criticism very seriously, although we do not always get it to change behavior.
15-He is honest about things he doesn't like. If you feel you are being treated unfairly, you will not be afraid to protest.
16-Although still may have some childish behaviors: fights, chases, hide things from a partner, throw things at another child ... and enjoy these things.
17-Normally Girls are more unwrapped than boys to get things from adults. The boys can be a bit rough. The girls are more diplomatic, they know how to be more affectionate, they recognize each other's feelings better, and they know how to find the right time to ask for something or get a permit.
18-It's easy for them to admire and even idealize an older brother, 15 or 18 years old. Normally this brother is more attentive and understanding with him than his own parents. In this way this brother can have a great influence on him and his education.
19-Usually requires from their parents and teachers leadership, authority, justice and understanding.
20-Give great importance to the group. It will be added to the things the group does, even the bad ones. When they are in a group, they are able to martyrize a classmate or make fun of a teacher before them.
21-If you see your teacher unsafe or soft, or who fails to maintain discipline, they will try to tease and make fun of him. On the contrary, they will be the most formal before a boss or teacher sure of himself and firm. It may surprise this double personality, this difference in behavior, but it is a consequence of the importance that the group has for him.
22-You can even feel admiration for teachers who are energeticThey know a lot, stand out in sports, or are able to take the class with authority and sense of humor at the same time.