Do you worry so much, that you even worry about worrying too much? If you only worry about what will happen tomorrow, when will you have time to live today?
If we look in the dictionary for the meaning of the term to worry, we see that it is defined as a feeling of restlessness, fear or restlessness that is had by a person, a thing or a certain situation.
But let's look carefully at the word worry. As we can see, it consists of two parts, the prefix pre and the verb occupy. The prefix informs us that it is something that precedes, that goes ahead, therefore pre-occupy means to occupy before, before what? We will ask ourselves, before something happens or we can remedy it effectively, or simply have a real solution.
Does it make sense to be distressed by what has not yet happened?
Although it is true that dealing with something before it happens gives some people a sense of control, this can generate stress and does not improve the ability to cope with difficulties. So worrying many times is a true and sincere waste of time, because if something goes wrong or does not work, we will take care then, why deal with it before? Starting to deal with it before is simply a terrible way to make our lives bitter.
People to worry about is a habit, they need that mental activity to make their lives more predictable. If they don't get overwhelmed, if they don't think about the multiple possibilities, especially the most negative ones, they don't feel they dominate the situation.
The concern, then, derives from a negative thought, a deep feeling that makes us think about something over and over again but without effectively solving the problem. It is a sensation that comes from the fear of failure, the fear that things do not go well, or worse, irrational fear of things that are already resolved or that work and that can fail.
For example, a mother of a teenage girl may worry every time she goes out to party with friends, thinking that something bad can happen to her, that she won't be back in time, that she drinks too much alcohol, or drugs, that she has a car accident ... But perhaps the girl has never given him signs that this is going to happen, so it is simply a concern for the "what would happen if ..." or "if the neighbor has happened, it may also happen to me me". And it's partly true, something disastrous can ever happen to all of us, in fact, who has never had anything wrong?
In most cases when we worry we block, we get stuck in a spiral of anxiety and negativity that does not allow things to flow properly because we are working based on fear, stress, insecurity and our mind only pays attention to the disaster.
When we worry we can't solve a problem, on the contrary, we sharpen the problemBecause most concerns are not based on reality, they are based on assumptions that we do not know if they will occur. Concerns absorb time and energy that we have left to the actual construction of projects or solutions. By worrying we destroy, because if your bases start from the negative, you will almost certainly have an equally negative ending.
“A psychologist in a group session raised a glass of water, everyone was waiting for the question: is it half full or half empty? However he asked, how much does this glass weigh? The answers varied between 200 and 250 grams.
The psychologist replied: the exact weight is not important, it all depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's no problem. If I hold it for an hour, my arm will hurt. If I hold it all day, my arm will be paralyzed.
The weight of the glass does not change, but the longer it is held, the heavier it becomes. The worries are like the glass. Remember to drop the glass!”.