Self-destructive personality is a general pattern of counterproductive behavior, which causes emotional and / or physical damage to oneself. It is generated from adulthood in a wide variety of contexts. The person often avoids any pleasant experience, causing situations or relationships in which he or she will end up suffering, and avoiding the help of others.
Characteristics of the self-destructive person
According to the diagnostic manuals, this personality is diagnosed when at least five of the following personality traits are met:
- Choose the people and situations that lead to disappointment, failure, or abuse, even when there are clearly better options available.
- Reject others' attempts to help you.
- Following the emergence of positive personal events (for example, a new achievement), respond with depression, feelings of guilt, or behavior that produces pain (for example, an accident).
- He encourages others to get angry with him and then feels hurt, defeated, or humiliated (for example, he mocks his girlfriend in public, which causes her to get angry, and then feels shattered).
- He rejects opportunities for pleasure, or does not want to recognize that he enjoys his surroundings (despite having the right social skills and the capacity for pleasure).
- He fails to perform the crucial tasks to achieve his personal goals, despite the demonstrated ability to do so, (for example, he helps others with their tasks, but is unable to successfully carry out his own).
- He refuses to be taken care of or taken care of by others.
- Make excessive self-sacrifices in favor of others.
- Accept psychological, physical or sexual abuse by third parties.
- Behaviors do not occur only when the person is depressed.
But why do they deny the help of people who have better intentions towards them? Why do they follow unhealthy habits, which will eventually incur permanent damage?
The issue of self-destructive behavior is a very daunting topic, there is something dark that hides in the corners of human existence, which we usually overlook.
Self-destructive behaviors are expressions of low self-esteem and even self-loathing.
While psychologists speculate that self-sabotage behaviors could be adaptive mechanisms (for example, for stress, pressure, social demands, etc.), others consider self-destructive behaviors as ways of maintaining comfort zones. ”Subjective, due to the lack of trust or feelings of unworthiness.
17 Symptoms and habits of self-destructive people
Self-destructive behavior can occur in many forms, some extreme, others not so extreme. Symptoms and / or habits of self-destructive behavior include the following points:
1. Self-destructive thoughts
This is an unconscious form of self-destructive behavior, because it gives rise to self-fulfilling prophecies. Examples include thoughts such as: "I will fail, I know," "I will never go out alive," "This will destroy me completely," etc.
2. Failure to take action
This is a passive symptom, but still self-destructive. When we know that something is bad for us, but we do not take any steps to remedy or avoid it, we are essentially establishing our own failure.
3. Excess feeding
This is a bad habit that gives rise to many long-term health problems.
4. Deprive of eating
Many deceive themselves thinking that they are benefiting in terms of health. But the truth is that eating below needs generally indicates a lack of positive self-image, in addition to other psychological problems.
5. Forced incompetence
This means that one sees oneself as unintelligent or unable to achieve something successfully. Forced incompetence is usually due to a lack of confidence in one's own abilities, and can function as a mechanism of self-destruction, for example at the academic level.
6. Harm others
Sow what you will collect, so if you behave badly with others, they will pay you with the same currency at one time or another. The negative influence that these attitudes have on others, whether with words or deeds, will eventually manifest in your life (for example, rejection, isolation, contempt, illness, legal matters, etc.).
Self-harm is a sign of self-loathing and is mentally and physically destructive in every way.
This is a manifested unconscious form of self-destructive behavior. Self-pity is destructive because it encourages us to remain inactive (that is, wallowing in our misfortunes), rather than taking a proactive approach to life.
9. Drug and alcohol abuse
An obvious form of self-destructive behavior is undoubtedly the abuse of drugs and alcohol. This behavior creates infinite misery in the lives of addicts, their friends and family.
10. Social suicide
Social suicide is the act of deliberately alienating oneself from peers. This could be through a variety of irritating, antisocial or contempt social behaviors.
11. Concealment of emotions
By not recognizing negative (and sometimes positive) emotions, a lot of mental, emotional and physiological diseases are created. This is another form of unconsciously self-destructive behavior.
12. Refuse to be helped
Departing from the advice, refusing to go to rehab, avoiding the psychologist ... not wanting to be helped shouting "I don't care about my well-being", it's like exercising self sabotage.
13. Unnecessary self-sacrifice
Some people find themselves tied in useless and loveless relationships, because that is all they have known for a large part of their lives. Unnecessary self-sacrifice is a good way to make one feel "noble" and "altruistic", while masking the act of self-sabotage: giving up hopes, dreams and passions that make you truly happy.
14. Spend in excess
Whether through gambling, or making constant purchases, excessive spending may seem unusual to have on this list, but it is nonetheless a form of self-destructive behavior that limits freedom and peace of mind.
15. Physical negligence
Staying continuously with lack of sleep, refusing to exercise, eating unhealthy foods, and not maintaining the overall well-being of your body, are all classic signs of self-destructive behavior.
16. Mental Neglect
Do nothing to maintain a certain level of psychological health or try to solve problems such as stress, anxiety, depression, paranoia, OCD, etc., delays the healing process, leading to significant problems long-term.
17. Sabotage relationships
These actions involve a wide variety of destructive behaviors such as jealousy, possessiveness, emotional manipulation, need, violence and so on. When we don't feel worthy of love, we unconsciously manifest this in our relationships through the way we behave with them.
The self-destructive person exhibits conscious and unconscious behaviors that sabotage their own health, happiness and the fulfillment of long-term achievements. It is important to remember that everything has a solution, it is only a matter of accepting this condition, and trying to remedy all these counterproductive ones. Become once and for all, your best friend.Related tests
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