Have you ever thought that you are not good enough for something or were you ashamed to express your opinions and your true way of being? Believe it or not, this is something that happens to many more people than you think.
- 1 The importance of accepting oneself
- 2 How does shame influence your self-esteem?
- 3 How can we get out of this situation?
The importance of accepting oneself
You may have seen it written on many other sites or your family or friends do not stop reminding you, but the truth is that until you do not you accept yourself, you cannot take responsibility for your circumstances and improve them.
It is normal for human beings to have our moments of joy and sadness, and that we go through different streaks throughout our lives. This is a sign that we are maturing and that we are alive, and that is why things affect us.
What might already be worrisome is that you ponds too much in a certain phase and it costs you to see the exit. We are not trying to tell you that this should never happen, because the human mind is complicated. But it is important that you know how to identify it if this happens to you.
It is in these moments when you have to take a few moments for yourself and ask yourself what it is. Is it an isolated and timely fact that can be solved? Or else you don't find a specific cause for your discomfort and unease?
When the first thing happens, remedying it is relatively easy, since we have identified the causes and can start from there. But when it comes to something much deeper and that has to do with our interior and personal frustration, then things get complicated.
And, because of a succession of events or simply because you don't know how to value yourself as you deserve, it may be the case that it is difficult for you to accept yourself as a person or simply to your circumstances.
And the truth is that it is very difficult to create fruitful and quality relationships if you do not cultivate the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself. And it is entirely up to it entirely your own self-esteem.
How does shame influence your self-esteem?
While it is true that the most outgoing and daring people tend to have less shame in general, this is a feeling that is not strange to any of the mortals, think what you think.
When should you start worrying? If shame is beginning to influence your life negatively and at various levels, or prevents you from living a normal life and which you can enjoy, you should stop to think.
Well, in the end, this shame can stop you from living the life you really want and doing all those things that would make you truly happy. In the end, the result is that you don't feel complete or fulfilled. In other words: it's not you.
What will happen if you don't realize it in time can impact more on your self-esteem and in your happiness of what you believe. You will end up feeling bad about everything. Not because of your actions, but because of your way of being. You'll start boycotting yourself.
This will mean that not only will we feel shame within ourselves, but we will also feel it in the eyes of others. And, many times, this contempt will be nothing more than something imaginary and will only be in our head. However, it will completely undermine our self-esteem.
How can we get out of this situation?
First, the best thing will be not to rush or force things. Changing our perception of ourselves is not a simple process, nor does it happen overnight. But by following the appropriate steps, we can face this situation and enjoy life again in our own skin.
As they say, the first step is accept it. Not every day will be pink, but we can not plunge into a sea of continuous sadness. Therefore, if we see that it is difficult for us to get out of the pothole, the first thing will be to realize and accept that we cannot and do not want to continue like this.
The next thing will be to ask ourselves why we are like this and we have reached this point of being ashamed to be as we are. Here it will be important to look with a certain retrospective and be very honest with ourselves, because it would do no good to fool ourselves.
Having accepted and analyzing the situation, the following will be act accordingly. Perhaps this is the most difficult step, as it is easy to say, but not so much to do it. Even so, the best will be set small goals every day to get out of that shame that disables us.
Little by little we will begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel and as our shame decreases, our self-esteem will grow. We are as we are and that is very difficult to change, but what we can do on a daily basis is to accept ourselves and highlight how good we have above all else.