We all walk with a purpose in life: "the pursuit of happiness", therefore, of the emotional stability.
This is one of the fundamental purposes of life. To feel good and that our passage through life allows us to build a pleasant story.
This process is a personal conquest, but, in the midst of the noise with which we run every day, we often seek happiness, as a process external to us, as if, depending on what comes from outside, and reduced to a simple adaptation to the environment in The one we are inserted.
I think that, in life, it is essential to achieve that goal, work our mental language. It is there, in our head, where our worldview is brewing.
Our thinking characteristics determine not only the concepts we develop to filter life, but also the way we interact with each step throughout our history.
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- 1 How is your mental language?
- 2 The power of mental language
- 3 Negative mental language contains unresolved emotional issues
- 4 Modify your mental language
- 5 Break with your story
- 6 It is possible to identify and modify our mental language
- 7 Experience becomes a benchmark for change
- 8 Listening, an essential element to modify our mental language
- 9 We must appropriate our mental language
How is your mental language?
Mental language is the group or set of ideas that all of us are coining throughout life.
They become the structure from which we conceptualize the world, life and history.
Therefore, it is our responsibility to build a mental, positive, constructive language that allows us to develop an objective vision of everything that we encounter in our daily lives.
Esther, is a woman who constantly treats herself badly. Your mental language is negative.
She thinks she is ugly, clumsy and not very graceful, therefore, she interacts with the world from the defensive. From this point of view, Esther is not allowed a positive vision, everything seems dark and when there is some hue, it is always gray.
Esther, being in a cafe, alone, notices that a man smiles at her, pays attention to him and her gesture denotes pleasure.
But she misunderstands. Remember, from her mental language, she feels pretty little.
The looks and gestures of attention of this man, which are polite, for her represent a nuisance. She thinks "what a foolish man."
Not only does her gaze not correspond, but her expression towards him is clearly charged with apathy and disinterest.
He stops looking at her, she continues to drink her coffee alone, and then tell herself, that she would like to meet people and get out of the routine.
From this perspective, he will continue to cultivate a series of thoughts, which will give body and form to his ideas:
- Nobody loves Me.
- I'm not beautiful.
- I don't call someone's attention.
- No one sees me again, only when they see me as a weirdo.
She must be aware that her way of acting moves her away more and more from the possibility that this changes, since her mental language feeds isolation and exacerbates her internal conflicts.
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The power of mental language
The power of mental language is enormous. Our thoughts determine emotions and interactions with the world.
Esther in the background, wants to feel loved. She is afraid, but, she thinks of herself in a negative way, therefore, defends herself from the courtesy of this man's eyes while drinking coffee.
Blocking in this way all its development possibilities. Convincing each day that she may be left alone. All this supported by his ideas, closing the doors to life, love, something that he longs for and has always been inside.
When our mental language is conscious and clearly negative, we simply stagnate in habits, behaviors and situations that make us grow little.
The power of mental language goes as far as you allow it, both for the positive and the negative.
Negative mental language contains unresolved emotional issues
- Esther has a deeply apathetic position for life, in the end she must review her self-esteem, security, modify her perception of herself, among other issues and seek a resolution of these underlying issues.
- Now this is like a circle, if she thinks badly, acts badly and has a negative perspective, which leads her to act in conflict with life, reinforces her negative thinking.
- If so, possibly your mental language remains the same. The challenge is that she manages to face them to develop new categories of thinking, which allow her to see life from another perspective.
Everything begins in thought, passes through our emotions and expresses in our behaviors habits and decisions.
Learn to manage your emotions.
Modify your mental language
- Is a fundamental challenge of life, and to do this it is necessary to identify the unproductive categories of thinking.
- Analyze the negative or positive impact of our thinking structures.
- Thoroughly question how we think of ourselves and others.
- Recognize the harmful effects of our thinking structures.
- Open up to the possibility of creating new mental software, through professional guidance and support.
- Reconceptualize and integrate new learning that work as positive filters.
A therapeutic guide may be required to do this process. The therapy makes it possible and allows us to understand the origin, impact and how our psychology has been structured, deriving this negative language, which is the maintenance factor, precipitating many of our conflicts.
Break with your story
Many of our thinking categories are derived from psychological processes, which are associated with stories of childhood, adolescence and our current moment.
We may find ourselves repeating learned patterns that, based on specific situations, whose result has been negative, have shaped a negative grip from which this mental pattern has been nurtured.
No human being is forever determined by its history. This becomes a point of reference, from which we can develop positive tools for life or become a mud pit, in which we stagnate, circling for years, sadly some for a lifetime.
It is possible to identify and modify our mental language
We have really believed that modifying our thinking structures is a deeply complex process, but this is not so.
When we are able to measure the limiting effect that our ideas have, since we accommodate fear, insecurity, disinterest, etc. Denying us the opportunity to grow and enjoy life. We can all feel, feel and evaluate the limitations that are created in our mind, for our complicated position before life.
From here, we can turn our history around. We must take action to regulate our emotional reactions and walk with more hope.
This requires an important effort, however, the premise is that we can see in ourselves different psychological effects, when we allow ourselves to act from the positive, and thus change our mental language, almost permanently.
Help yourself in the change by observing different levels of social interaction, in other people with a more optimistic view of the world and life, which denote joy, tenacity, empathy, affability and others, in this way make the decision to incorporate these models to create A change in our thinking categories.
Experience becomes a benchmark for change
Many people ask:
- How do I modify all this?
- How do I build my happiness?
- How do I feel different?
The day-to-day experience can impact us Are you a person who often thinks negative? If you don't open the possibilities, nothing happens in your life.
Let's start changing patterns, for example:
- Your coworkers invite you to lunch, you never go. All the time you say no. None of this, you have to go.
- You are stuck in routine and monotony. You have to allow yourself to explore your interests, break your passive attitudes.
- You avoid a final exam to graduate, you have to prepare more, seek support and face it.
The power of mental language is experienced when you change your behavior and you allow yourself to integrate new ideas from the changes made, this creates positive, productive circularity, while modifying actions and thoughts.
Start modifying the experience. The change begins when you identify everything that is limiting you or that you have not allowed yourself to explore in depth.
Simply because you live in a "No" code. You have to go over this structure of thought, in which, above the negative emotion or a paralyzing idea, you allow yourself to give your best and experience new things.
Letting the experience and its positive effect impact you is your responsibility as you change patterns. These new actions become the norm of life, which allows you to create new concepts to embrace life with hope, motivation, commitment and determination.
Listening, an essential element to modify our mental language
There are those who walk in life hoping to make changes. Others live from lamentation, explaining to themselves and the world how sad their life, their history or how bad they have been.
But beyond this, too life puts us in front of people who give us good advice, make us see our mistakes, motivate us to make strategy changes, guide us to chart new routes. But if you insist on closing, developing a vicious circle, in which you only see the world in gray, speaking of sorrows and paying tribute to your complications, then the change does not occur.
Listening to other human beings is very valuable. Why do you do it? When you ask for advice, it is to integrate new perspectives, reorganize your life, otherwise nothing happens and you will continue to live as a slave to that chronic pessimism, which has characterized you throughout your life.
We must appropriate our mental language
It's your life, it's your story, it's your world, it's your brain. We can all make this effort to question and modify our thoughts.
This helps you to walk with a sense of hope. Why become our own enemies? Why be subject to sadness or live slaves of negativity?
We are all managers of the good in life. No one is programmed for sadness, unless, from his experiences, he decides to stay there.
It is not about living in an illusory optimism, it must be realistic, balancing the positive and the negative.
Living aware of our potential, but fundamentally committed to self-analysis, growth and the ability to feel the writers of our history and change managers.