The writer Laura Gutman said: “Faced with the misunderstanding of the expected processes after birth, we can come to believe that everything is wrong when it is simply a loss of identity, loss of external references or various situations of loneliness, helplessness or anguish that deserve to be taken into account as what they are, without staining them with false interpretations. ” These are just some of his words, but how many mothers will have felt this way. Truth?
Only with this fragment can we see the magnitude of what motherhood implies.
- 1 The present of motherhood
- 2 I feel guilty for feeling bad
- 3 What is the Baby Blues?
- 4 What are the causes of Baby Blues?
- 5 How can I fight baby blues?
- 6 When to see a specialist?
The present of motherhood
We are currently in inflection on what what is motherhood. A pandora box is opened in our society that so far few people had expressed in public: issues such as sacrifice, difficulties before a society limited in aid, the loss of certain privileges, etc. Finally it seems that they begin to have a voice and face thought that many women have had hidden so far, but today I do not intend to talk about whether motherhood is idealized or not, if we social resources for the needs of having a child…
Today I want to give voice to almost 80% of the women, who after being mothers are dragged by conflicting emotions, feelings of sadness and even emptiness. Which leads to inappropriate and unreal feelings of guilt due to ignorance of what in the field of medicine and piscology is known as Baby blues.
I feel guilty for feeling bad
As I mentioned in other articles, the unreal guilt It can be a great enemy for our emotional, cognitive and even behavioral well-being.
If we do not know what happens to us, frequently we will feel bad for not being happy and happy as society expects after the birth of our son.
Knowing what happens after giving birth will allow us to understand each other better, release our feelings of guilt and begin to manage our well-being through adequate resources.
What is the baby blues?
We have spoken that the birth of a child is an event that affects all areas of our lives, but sometimes little is said about how it affects our interior, our organism.
The expression of symptoms such as feeling of sadness, apathy, tiredness, irritability, fears, insomnia, social unrest they are only the reflection of all the readjustments that our body has to assume after childbirth. These feelings similar to depression, which emerge a few days after the part are known as the phenomenon of Baby Blues.
A priori the symptomatology seems quite alarming, but if we understand what happens in our body, it will help us to channel and manage our misunderstanding and frustration.
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What are the causes of Baby Blues?
As I have mentioned other times, never and less in psychology should we understand things as if we were objects. People are complex and we are the result of countless factors that interact with each other in very complex ways, what we do know is that much of the Baby Blues is produced by all the hormonal readjustment that emerges after birth.
The progesterone: hormone responsible for preparing the endometrium for the implantation of our baby and the chorionic gonadotropin hormone among others, they will be the main ones in charge of maintaining and regulating the hormonal changes to carry out the pregnancy, but after childbirth these must be readjusted. The key point is that these two hormones do not act alone, but under a large control center in our brain: The pituitary gland.
Pituitary gland with him hypothalamus It is the center where our stress emerges and is regulated, emotions and therefore well-being.
The days after pregnancy these brain structures are usually overloaded, causing those mismatches that are manifested with the aforementioned symptoms.
How can I fight baby blues?
For this article we have focused on the biochemical changes that occur in women, since few people talk about it. Obviously there will be not only biochemical, but also environmental (couple, work, home) and psychological (behavioral) changes that will form this whole phenomenon. Surely we could spend days writing pages about it, but I would like to simply leave some clear and effective points that will contribute to our well-being and recovery:
- Baby Blues is a transient state of readjustment: We must be patient and understand what is happening so as not to create unreal feelings of guilt and discomfort. Understand why the Baby Blues happens and accept it as something within a normal situation of adaptation of our body after a pregnancy.
- Be prepared, learn during pregnancy to know each other, know how to strengthen and manage our own resources and personal tools: resources that will help combat the most unstable moments and thus recover our emotional balance as effectively as possible.
- The communication: it will be our fundamental tool, good communication with our partner, family and friends is the basis of all well-being, since it is our tool to face the channeling of our problems, this process allows us to be aware of it and refute those thoughts or feelings that cause us discomfort.
When to go to a specialist?
As we have been explaining in this article, Baby Blues is a phenomenon of alteration of our emotional state that affects more than 80% of women who give birth.
Although it is usually something very frequentIt is also true that its prolongation over time without any professional intervention can lead to depression situations.
As a psychologist I recommend that if I have just a few months, you perceive that the symptoms not only do not improve, but that they get worse, go to a specialist. Timely professional intervention is essential to avoid major depression processes.
I would not like to finish this article without addressing all the mothers. I encourage you to remain brave, meet, love and be patient with yourself, as Anna Eleanor Roosevelt said: "You must do the things you think you cannot do."
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