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Learning to be proactive

Learning to be proactive

A proactive person It is one that assumes its own responsibilities and does not give up under the circumstances. According Viktor Frankl It is also that person who has initiative and pursues goals, for the sake of himself and others.

Content

  • 1 Opposite Factors or Reactive Attitudes
  • 2 Common Affirmations that prevent us from being Proactive
  • 3 Alternatives to be a Proactive Person

Contrary Factors or Reactive Attitudes

  1. Be deterministic
  2. Be fatalistic
  3. Confuse the common with the normal.
  4. Like the crack or gossip.
  5. Always justify yourself.
  6. Do not go into action.
  7. Do things halfway.
  8. Be resentful
  9. Be negative
  10. Do not assume risks or responsibilities.
  11. Always have excuses.
  12. Wasting time.

Common Affirmations that prevent us from being Proactive

  1. I do not meet the deadlines established for the delivery of tasks, reports, projects, etc. Why… .
    Usual excuses: I don't have enough time for so many things.
    True reasons: I don't plan time, I let myself win by laziness or neglect.
  1. I do not do activities that I would like to do (exercises, reading, traveling, going out, etc.) because….
    Usual excuses: I don't feel like it or I don't have money to make them.
    True reasons: I don't like to leave the house or I don't want to spend on that.
  1. Many times I'm late for commitments or appointments because….
    Usual excuses: Everyone is late or there is a lot of traffic.
    True Reasons: There is so much time that I don't want to arrive early or I'm always late.
  1. Sometimes I don't do things as well as I could do them because….
    Common excuses: No one values ​​it or I don't have the necessary conditions.
    True reasons: I don't want to try harder or I don't feel capable.
  1. Although I disagree, many times I do what my friends do, because….
    Common excuses: I don't want to argue with them or I don't want them to think badly of me.
    True Reasons: I don't value my own opinions or I don't trust myself.
  1. Sometimes I don't tell people what I would like to tell them (feelings, opinions, ideas, etc.) because….
    Usual excuses: I don't want them to bother me or it's not worth telling them.
    True reasons: Fear of being angry or being rejected.
  1. Usually in group work I do not give my opinion because….
    Common excuses: I don't think it's important or everyone speaks.
    True reasons: Believing that my opinion is not important or not really showing me how I am.
  1. I usually leave things to do at the last moment because….
    Usual excuses: There is plenty of time or why I will strive for pleasure.
    True reasons: I let myself be overcome by apathy or I have no will to do them.

Alternatives to be a Proactive Person

  1. Find solutions and not guilty.
  2. Be more thoughtful and not always respond automatically.
  3. Recognize skills and feats.
  4. Do not put on or make excuses.
  5. Orient to achievement (I will achieve it, I can….).
  6. Ask for guidance and help when needed.
  7. Find alternative solutions.
  8. Be positive (prepare for the best).
  9. Always have will and motivation in any circumstance.

Victor Nakama Hokamura
Clinical Psychologist - Labor