When they talk to us about emotions, countless words come to mind, sadness and joy, above all. But also happiness, go to or disgust. And although they all have a very important role and functions in our day to day there is a very special emotion that can help us greatly if it is well used. Emotion that can lead us to be prepared for what will happen to us, which leads our body to allocate all the resources available to what is to come and thus face it better.
This is a powerful emotion, and it has great potential, perhaps the one that presents the most potential of all. And if this emotion is used well, it can help us to achieve goals that would otherwise be impossible. We talk about The surprise.
What is the surprise
The surprise is undoubtedly the most unique emotion of all, we can define it as something unexpected or novel and whose main consequence is to divert all our attention to that. The surprise is classified as a neutral emotion, because the surprise itself is never negative or positive, what is negative and positive are the acts and emotions that occur immediately after. The surprise barely lasts a few seconds as it quickly becomes another emotion depending on the nature of the surprise event. Evolutionarily the surprise has allowed our ancestors deal with unexpected changes in the environment quite effectively diverting all our resources towards that change in order to face it successfully.
The surprise happens as reaction to an event or event that is discrepant with the schemes we have in our mind, and leads us to unleash a series of processes that occur very quickly and abruptly, stopping everything in which our thinking was working at the time this surprise arises.
What is the surprise for?
Is ability to stop thoughts abruptly, is what gives the full potential to surpriseWell, when we are immersed in a cascade of negative thoughts, perhaps a good surprise can make us turn our attention to something more positive in an almost immediate way and make us forget what triggers that negative thought, such as stress or anxiety, reducing them considerably. The most important effect we feel with surprise is a feeling of “blank mind”Which focuses immediately on the new stimulus, that is, we feel that the previous thought stops suddenly.
And although surprise generates uncertainty, and that is something that we usually don't like very much, the process of being surprised in certain situations can be very beneficial, as long as the surprise that comes later is of course positive. For example, if a person is immersed in an anxious process, and we are positively surprised, we will get him to stop his entire process to devote all his resources to the surprise we are giving him. That is, we can restart the person to stop paying attention to their internal thoughts that generate stress and anxiety and all his attention goes to us, at least momentarily reducing that suffering that the person suffering from anxiety is suffering from a given fact or thought.
This technique has been a popular practice (especially in films) although controversial for a long time, since it has always been possible to see how to give a “slap” to excessively nervous people can work to make someone react, and this is no more That one way something is enough to surprise. Logically, that is not the surprise you should give, there are others many ways to surprise a person dragged by their negative emotions much better as it can be to perform an unexpected behavior such as taking a leap without coming to mind, or a strange movement with the hands that leads the person to devote their full attention to us, say a positive comment that is surprising and novel to the person , or surprise with some small detail that is not expected.
As you can see the surprise has enough potential to direct the person towards a goal, potential that well used can serve many purposes, in addition to reducing a cascade of negative emotions, also the surprise can serve in the field of sales to achieve ( if you can surprise the person) to direct your attention to what we are telling you about our products or services, or in the case of education if we achieve surprise our students to pay full attention to what we want to explain.
As we can see, we can conclude that the ability of the emotion of surprise to direct our attention to other events makes it a very powerful emotionWe can even dare to say the most that is the most powerful to guide our thinking towards a thought, that well used can serve to achieve many good goals in people, that lead them to give their best, especially at times where they fall prey to their negative emotions and feel stress or anxiety, for example, surprise can be a powerful momentary remedy to reduce them and prevent their most immediate consequences (possible panic attacks, self-injury ...), on the other hand also the surprise can help us to better convey a message if we really manage to surprise our interlocutor, or help us achieve a goal if we get our interlocutor to be surprised.
Therefore, never doubt the potential of a good surprise to achieve a complicated and difficult objective. You will be surprised what you can get with it.