- 1 The need to love and be loved
- 2 How does the relationship begin?
- 3 Positive consequences of love at work
- 4 negative consequences
- 5 Sexuality and work
- 6 Suggestions for change
The need to love and be loved
The sites for get a partner they can be as varied as the various forms of interaction that people establish: the park, the church, the school, a party, a wake, a traffic incident or why not? the job.
Where human sexuality meets, the need to love or be loved, to experience an adventure, to tempt the forbidden, to start in the networks of love, in short, to have a relationship at work, has its consequences positive or negative as all.
How does the relationship begin?
Many are the ways in which a partner it knows and joins; the differences, the similarities, the proximity, the continuous treatment, the complementary being, the teamwork, the excessive time spent in an office, the temptation to the forbidden, to make the day more pleasant, to complete what is not you have it at home or with the official couple, in short, the range is impressive. They go from mutual agreement, conviction or even harassing pressure of harassment in the most extreme and unpleasant cases.
On many occasions the same expectations of living together as a couple are not contemplated, because They could well be more convenient, playful, passionate or complementary relationships only. However, they generate the same emotional wear and tear as a relationship outside this context.
The combinations are as coarse as the existing couples, in some it can be an open secret: the boss with the secretary, the companions who do their work together and walk all day in coexistence, an employee with a lower category with the / the boss, those who are looking for a pretext to spend most of their time side by side, those who need each other to carry out some production process, also the least probabilistic, the president of the company with someone of courier or intendancy, in short, each one of them could be a unique case.
Cupid makes his presence many times feeling dislike or rejection by the person and then the positive side is seen when they are attracted. Couples at work can interfere with the objectives of the company, so on some occasions since the signing of the hiring this restriction is made visible to employees, which sometimes works to move them away or try despite the risks.
Positive consequences of love at work
On the positive side, motivates people not to miss, be more creative, efficient, productive, be in a better mood, make the burden more bearable when it comes to routine work or heavy stress. In the case of the responsible employees, they infect others with optimism and desire to live, seeing them in general in a good mood, putting their grain of sand in order to achieve the objectives of the company. They collaborate to make a more positive organizational climate and can be more satisfied with their work and of course with their relationship.
The romances in the office, go through the common crush between the relationships of daily life, at the same time by risking intimacy within the facilities, which can range from a simple touch of lips, a passionate kiss, to flipping from Head the office ending in a sexual relationship.
If the situation experienced by the members involved is conflict, then the dynamics of the couple, is able to influence negatively not only among themselves, but among co-workers, being able to reach the field of family life of both, all this also to the detriment of the company.
If there is an open benefit to someone, The murmuring, the rumors, the jealousy, the envy do not take long, being able to reach the change of place or the termination of the contract due to external or internal pressures of those involved or other third parties. If they are people with a certain power, they can block the couple's productive processes in order to make their strength felt openly or veiledly, of course to the detriment of the company. All this, without counting the internal expenditure on human resources (taking time to tell what happened to colleagues or wasting time in transmitting rumors, jokes, etc.) and materials (use of the Internet or intranet, utility cars of the company, cell phones, phones, stationery, pc's or other company resources to block the other). Invest time in giving free rein to the relationship, neglecting work (missing, leaving pending or incomplete activities to be with the loved one).
All this without counting the various situations of sexual harassment or harassment when someone does not want to continue a relationship or wants to leave it and of course the other person refuses to leave it alone, inside or outside the office.
Sexuality and work
Despite the restrictions of some companies to regulate sexuality at work, peer relationships will continue to exist despite the consequences that they generateand.
Suggestions for change
- Measure the consequences: positive or negative that a relationship can have.
- If it is a complementary relationship or an adventure, measure the work or family consequences that would have to be discovered.
- Analyze personal history, to decide the continuity of the relationship and, if necessary, to plan forward couple goals together.
- In case of taking a risk, act discreetly in order to avoid gossip or murmuring that wears the image of both.
- Take all possible precautions in order to avoid being discovered "in fraganti", although some people like to tempt the risk and danger which generates an ingredient of additional excitement to the relationship.