One of the biggest concerns of parents is that their children have a successful job tomorrow. Undoubtedly, the happiness of their descendants is above all, regardless of their future dedication, but, Can you influence professional success through parenting? A research team at the University of Canada has published an article on four characteristics in parenting that can make it easier for children to have higher income in the future.
This article is not intended to make money the center of our vital motivation. While it is true that an amount of money assures us a home, being able to pay the bills and provide us with food. The objective is show the results of an investigation in which four important aspects are exposed according to which our children will be able to have more success in the future and, in this way, a more comfortable life.
Parenting and success
The Vergunst and Tremblay team (2019) concluded that "behavioral outcomes at 5-6 years are associated with labor income three decades later, regardless of a person's IQ and family history ". The authors pointed out the lack of attention, poor management of emotions and social relationships as important predictors.
They point out that "lack of attention and aggression-opposition were associated with lower annual income from employment and prosociality with higher income". However, this observation was only seen in children. Among girls, the only behavioral predictor of income was lack of attention. Next, four fundamental points that the authors observed as important in relation to parenting and job success will be presented.
Attention and concentration
One of the first aspects to encouraging in children is attention and concentration. Currently, techniques such as mindfulness are in vogue, so it will not be difficult to find a center to target our children or learn and teach them. One tip for them to carry out their activities with greater attention is to divide larger tasks into smaller and affordable tasks. Once the division is done, we encourage the child to go around focusing on one at the same time.
We live in a society where we are increasingly required to be more attentive to different stimuli at the same time. The bombardment of information is constant since we were born. In this way, helping our child to focus his attention, we will promote his ability to study and work. It is advisable to create an orderly workplace where there are as few distractors as possible.
Instead of forcing children to share, it is advisable to encourage shift system. For example, if you are with more friends, instead of forcing him to leave his toy to another child, a time will be set for each child to play with each toy. In this way, the little ones will know that their toys will be returned to them.
It is also advised that the most appreciated toys, those that represent something special for our children, be stored before the presence of other children. The purpose is to avoid unnecessary disputes and competencies in an environment where the objective is to share.
Although children seem to be always happy and nothing emotionally worries them, they also have their concerns. What for us may seem silly, for them it can mean something serious, and as such, we must address it correctly. The problems of children should not be minimized, but not dramatized. It is advisable talk to them openly. They may feel concerns about death, about their future, about family, etc.
As they turn years, it is good to adapt the vocabulary to their age. If we help our children develop emotional intelligence to manage their anxiety levels, when they are teenagers they will know how to perform better in a world in which they are increasingly demanded. The raising of children in relation to the confrontation of anxiety will be an important factor in the face of future setbacks that may arise.
Good social relationships and empathy
Working empathy is an important aspect for both adults and children. Nevertheless, if you start working since we are young, in the future it can be promoted more easily. Children will know how to put themselves in the place of others and feel what others feel. In this way, it reduce harmful behavior towards others and behaviors such as generosity or altruism will be encouraged.
To start working empathy, we can ask children how they think other people feel when they experience uncomfortable experiencess. Through these types of issues, we will help put the child in the skin of others and experience different situations. We will also encourage the question of why different attitudes: "Why do you think that person has done what he has done? Why do you think he has behaved like that with his friend?".
Reflection on parenting
Raising children is a task that takes time and patience, a lot of patience. No one has a manual through which children can be educated perfectly. Everything consists of constant learning. Nevertheless, yes there are some patterns, some recommendations through which we can establish healthy and solid bases. Bases that can favor the happiness, autonomy and responsibility of our children.
For all this, it is important to be informed about what may affect the smallest. Knowing the latest developments such as those in the article by Vergunst and Tremblay (2019), can help us to promote certain aspects that, in the long run, will have a positive impact on the development of our children.
- Vergunst, F., Tremblay, R., Nagin, D., Algan, Y. et al. (2019). Association between childhood behaviors and adult intelligence earnings in Canada. JAMA Psychiatry.