The conquest of oneself

The conquest of oneself

There are exciting trips. Trips that take us to new and unknown places, distant places to which we know it will take time to return or that we will never return. Each of these trips have certain common characteristics: a beginning and an end. However, there is a journey for which there is a beginning but not an end. It is a journey in which, little by little, we are opening doors that we could not imagine were there. A journey through which our worldview can change completely. What trip is this? The conquest of oneself.


  • 1 Who am I?
  • 2 The conquest of oneself
  • 3 Where to begin the conquest of oneself?
  • 4 Conclusion

Who I am?

Despite looking like an easy question, the answer is not so simple. Answering this question can take time, a lot of time. If we stop to think about who we are, we can come up with statements that we have taken as true for many years. Despite this, it does not mean that we are who we believe. How many of us are not happy with the life he leads? How many people would like to change course? On many occasions, we conduct behaviors that we don't identify with: we study a career we don't like, we marry who we don't want…

On the other hand, we are also victims of our most entrenched habits. From a young age they teach us, consciously or unconsciously, that if something goes wrong, we should be sorry or sad. It has settled in our mind that we must break our good mood if we don't get what we want. When at home, at school or at work, something goes wrong, on many occasions we can hear the famous question: "What are you laughing at? Does it make you funny?". Thus, instead of teaching us to put a good face on bad weather, they condition us to twist our faces and look down.

In the same way that we are taught to be crestfallen, we also learn to respond with anger. If the results of what we expect do not match our expectations, we are enraged and suffer. "But how am I not going to get angry?", we listen many times. The first anger reaction is natural, but controlling anger and not adding fuel to the fire is optional. There is the practice of putting your finger in the sore and lengthening the anger more than the bill. Even some people keep anger for days, weeks and months after something unpleasant happened to them.

The conquest of oneself

The conquest of oneself has a final stop: freedom. But what freedom do we talk about? It's about the ability to make our own decisions. For example, before a disagreement with another person, instead of reacting angrily, freedom will allow us to decide how we want to react. By being free, we will stop being victims of our habits. In this way, we will also have the option of not being sad when something does not happen as we wanted. As the Buddhist Master Lama Rinchen states: "hope no, optimism".

"Today you can decide to walk freely. You can decide to walk differently. You can walk like a free person, enjoying every step."

-Thich Nhat Hanh-

Despite looking like a somewhat dramatic statement. Hope leads us to hold on to expectations that, if not fulfilled, can break us inside. So it will be more advisable to replace hope with optimism. In this case, optimism equals getting the best out of all situations. Whatever happens, the important thing is to get an apprenticeship. When we live an adverse situation, we can ask ourselves: "How can I benefit from this situation? What can I learn?"

Where to begin the conquest of oneself?

You can start at home, just motivation, perseverance and patience are required. On the one hand, it is important to know that it is a trip in which we can discover things that we did not know about us, including aspects that displease us. On the other hand, when we investigate in our mind, we will travel certain paths without the possibility of going backwards. What is it about? When we get detached from our egocentric view of the world, we begin to observe it from other points of view.

The mental opening can provoke in us this step to the irreversible front because it will have put us in contact with a reality that we did not know until now. One of the best ways to begin to investigate within us, without a doubt, is through meditation. Meditation encompasses different techniques, but you can start with Shamata meditation and when we achieve some control, continue with Vipassana. In summary, through the first one we obtain mental calm and through the second, we analyze the phenomena more clearly.

Meditation requires perseverance, patience and practice. The importance of this technique is remarkable, but there are also other ways to take this path. For example, questioning what we think and feel can cause us to break established structures. Many times, we will realize that our way of seeing the world will be influenced by parental education, by society, by culture or by everything at once. We will be aware for the first time that we really do not think so much for ourselves, but rather we repeat established patterns of behavior and thoughts.


Thus, the conquest of oneself begins with the firm decision to undertake a journey without turning back. A journey with which we will live great joys, but also great moments of sadness, but which are certainly necessary to grow. The fear of this type of adventure can paralyze us and leave us in our comfort zone comfortably, without really knowing who we are. It is up to us to take the first step ...